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Growing into Country: A Memoir Moment

Posted by Kathleen Pooler/@kathypooler

 

 “The ultimate goal of farming is not the growing of crops, but the cultivation and perfection of human beings.”
― Masanobu FukuokaThe One-Straw Revolution

 

A few weeks ago, two of my favorite memoir friends, Shirley Showalter and Carol Bodensteiner posted a blog swap where they exchanged their delightful stories of growing up country. Stop by Shirley’s and Carol’s blogs for a treat.

 

I delved into their stories and connected with my own. I didn’t grow up country, though I often daydreamed about living on a farm as a child. I’d envision running through the open fields and chasing chickens in the yard. I also enjoyed visiting my friend Dawn’s farm where I could pet the horses and watch the cows being milked.

 

And Grandpa DiCerbo came from a pig farm in Italy and although he never had his own farm in America, he grew the biggest, freshest tomatoes in his backyard. Often times those tomatoes helped pay the rent.

 

I love country music, square dancing, fresh vegetables from the garden and wild flowers.

 

PoolerFamily Farm10-07-18 - 2011-10-02

 

No, I didn’t grow up country but I married a farmer-at-heart who left corporate America, and upon retirement began working the land his father and grandfather before him had raised dairy cattle on.

 

The farmer and his wife.

 

Here’s an excerpt from an essay I wrote:

 

Summer Fields

 

            My husband Wayne grows organic vegetables, herbs, berries and flowers on the 135-acre farm where his grandfather raised dairy cows. He has, for the most part, single-handedly cleared the land he worked on as a young boy. His four-acre garden is a work of art, teeming with the freshness of green produce, bursting with the vibrance of red and orange tomatoes and yellow squash, and sprinkled with the sweat of his labor.

 

            He nurtures all his produce from seeds, initially planting them in seed trays in our home in January. In March, he begins housing the seedlings in the greenhouse, manually regulating temperatures to promote survival with a space heater, bottles of hot water and  insulation panels.

 

            As soon as the springtime rains abate, he begins tilling the fields to promote permanent homes for all the tender new plants in the greenhouse. Using a crop rotation system, he systematically plants seeds in the greenhouse so the cycle of planting and harvesting continues throughout the fall.

 Bounty from the garden Photo from 2010-12-04

            Standing in a strawberry patch at 6 a.m. on a summer morning surely must be one of life’s greatest pleasures. Searching for the biggest, freshest berries to pick, I marvel at the miracle of new birth and growth. Some berries are deformed; some are over-ripe; and some are half-eaten. It seems as though the plumpest, juiciest ones are underneath them all, as if protected from the elements by caring kin. They are the prized ones. But, they are all beautiful in their varied stages of development.

 

They symbolize the cycle of life; the beauty of new birth; and the dignity of death.

 

These summer fields and all they bear are the fruits of my husband’s loving labor. From the moment he carefully plants the seeds in the trays in mid-January until he proudly displays his abundant array of fresh produce through the spring and summer, he has nurtured and promoted this predictable cycle of life. In living out this dream of connecting to his own roots, he has reached out to nurture the community he serves, and , in turn, has nurtured his own cycle of life.

 

My hat is off to my husband Wayne and to all farmers who are stewards of the land and give back to their communities.

 

Farmer's Market in actionPhoto from 2010-12-04

 

I may not have grown up country but I’ve grown into country and I love it!

 

 

How about you? Did you grow up country? If not, do you wish you had?

 

I’d love to hear from you. Please leave your comments below~

 

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Thursday, 11/21: Book Tour and Giveaway for Survival Lessons by Alice Hoffman.

 

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Turning Mundane into Magic: Memoir Writing Tips by Carol Bodensteiner

A guest post by Carol Bodensteiner/@CABodensteiner posted by Kathleen Pooler/@kathypooler

 

“No moment fully realized is truly mundane.” Shirley Showalter

 

I am very happy to feature Carol Bodensteiner in this guest post on why mundane matters in memoir writing. Carol and I met through Sonia Marsh’s Gutsy Indie Publisher Facebook group .

When I read her memoir, Growing Up Country:Memories of an Iowa Farm Girl, I was mesmerized by her ability to weave such a delightful tale from her day-to-day life on a farm. I asked Carol to describe how she turned mundane into magic in her memoir.

My book reviews are on Amazon and Goodreads.

Welcome , Carol!

Memoir Author Carol Bodensteiner
Memoir Author Carol Bodensteiner

 

“Sorry, but no. We need a character in conflict.”  That’s what I heard from publishers when I sent out the manuscript of my memoir, a collection of stories about growing up on a family farm in the middle of the country, in the middle of the 20th Century. If I wasn’t running with sharp tools or dusting off ashes, my collection of everyday stories was deemed not commercially viable. 

 

Because I was one of the lucky ones who had a happy childhood, there simply was no character in conflict. I was left wondering if my memoir could be successful, if anyone other than my mother would read it. I gulped and elected to publish independently, prepared for Growing Up Country: Memories of an Iowa Farm Girl to wind up being what it started out to be – a reminiscence of the mundane events that comprised my childhood, a collection of stories about my family, of interest to only my family.

 

Imagine my surprise and delight when time and again readers thanked me for writing these simple stories. They told me things like: “You told my story,” “You could have been living in our house,” “I’ve thought about writing about my life, but now I don’t need to; your stories are my stories!”

 

In the course of doing countless book talks at libraries, for book clubs, women’s groups, and bank clubs, I’ve become an advocate for preserving everyday stories.  Most of us don’t spend our lives climbing Mount Everest or finding a cure for cancer. Most of us spend our days getting food on the table, getting the kids off to school, doing the laundry, earning an honest living. We live good, simple lives, and here’s the thing: Those good, simple lives are valuable. These simple, everyday actions bind us together as human beings, as a society.

 

When I ask my audiences if they’ve written or thought about writing their own stories, invariably someone will say something like, “I couldn’t write a book. I haven’t done anything special. Nobody would care.” I encourage them to write their stories regardless. Maybe the stories will be just for them, helping them put some meaning to their own lives. More likely, those stories will mean everything to a child or grandchild. Some might even make it to book form. If writing is beyond them, I suggest telling the stories into an audio or video recorder or simply sitting with someone in their family and talking.

 

I give tips to trigger memories:

 

  • Go back to the place they grew up. Place triggers powerful memories

 

  • Look at old pictures. But I urge them to be like Paul Harvey and go beyond who’s in the picture to tell “the rest of the story.” Why do they like that particular picture so much? What does that picture remind them of?

 

  • Play music from the time.

 

  • Stroll through an antique store and see what stories pop to mind.

 

When they do write, I urge them not to worry about grammar or sentence structure or spelling or how long it is.  Just write. Write the first thing that comes to mind and then write what that makes them think of, because one memory leads to another. Always.

 

The genesis of my memoir was talking with my parents about their lives. The jobs Dad had during the Depression. Mom’s experiences teaching in one-room schools. How it was to start their farming lives on a farm with no electricity and no indoor plumbing.  Each story they told, triggered a memory in me. Those memories became my memoir.

 

During book talks, I tell a few stories of our farm but leave plenty of time for the audience members to talk. Because it’s the same for my audiences as it was for me. One memory leads to another. All I have to do is toss a traumatic chicken story into the crowd and watch the memories fly!

 

When I wrote my stories, I was writing my life. Little did I know I was also writing for others who grew up in rural areas. In writing my mundane stories, I affirmed their lives.

 

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Thank you , Carol for sharing how your everyday memories became your memoir and for showing us how storytelling helps us all to connect with one another. You have turned the mundane into magic!

 

Carol Bodensteiner – Bio

Carol Bodensteiner is a writer who finds inspiration in the places, people, culture and history of the Midwest. After a successful career in public relations consulting, she turned to creative writing. She writes regularly for The Iowan magazine www.iowan.com blogs about writing, her prairie, gardening, and whatever in life interests her at the moment at www.carolbodensteiner.com  She published her memoir GROWING UP COUNTRY in 2008 as a paperback and as an ebook in 2011. She’s working on her first novel, historical fiction set during World War I.

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Growing Up Country: Memories of an Iowa Farm Girl is available in paperback and ebook forms from Amazon

GROWING UP COUNTRY book cover
GROWING UP COUNTRY book cover

 

How about you? What  everyday memories can you resurrect that can turn into a memoir? What magic can you weave out of the mundane?

 

We’d love to hear from you. Please leave your comments below~

 

Carol has graciously offered to give a copy of her memoir to a commenter whose name will be selected in a random drawing.

 

Announcement: Congratulations to Rhonda Baker, Nancy Stephan and Debbie Pierce. Your names were selected  in a random drawing to receive  free e-books version of Pubslush’s debut title, a beautiful mess by Ali Berlinski!

 

Next Week: “A Tribute to a Father’s Love: A Memoir Moment”