What a Nonagenarian Javelin Thrower Can Teach Us about Writing Memoir by Debra Eve

Posted by Kathleen Pooler/@kathypooler with Debra Eve/@debraeve

“Time and trouble will tame an advanced young woman, but an advanced old woman is uncontrollable by any earthly force.”  ~Dorothy L. Sayers

How often do you find yourself thinking  “I cannot fulfill my dreams because I’m  getting older and past my prime”?

Enter Debra Eve who blogs at LaterBloomer about making the most of your life after 50. Debra has “always been intrigued by people who embrace art and adventure later in life. Once a month, she profiles a late-blooming artist, athlete, explorer or writer.” This week, we meet Olga and the lessons she provides for us as memoir writers. Debra and I met through my friend and  colleague Janet Givens. That’s the magic of the Web. Thank you, Janet!

Welcome, Debra~

ElleB-Photo400-300x300
Author Debra Eve

What a Nonagenarian Javelin Thrower Can Teach Us about Writing Memoir 

 

Olga Kotelko is a 95-year-old track and field prodigy.

She competes in eleven sports—long jump, high jump, triple jump, shot put, discus, javelin, hammer throw, 100-meter, 200-meter and 400-meter sprints, and the 4 x 100-meter relay.

She holds more than 30 world records and has won more than 750 gold medals in her age category.

At the 2009 World Masters Athletics Championships in Finland, Olga threw a javelin almost twenty feet farther than her closest competitor.

Hand with Javelin
Photo Credit: iStockphoto

Why is Olga a prodigy? Because she didn’t find her talent for track and field until age 77. And she’s not alone—many Masters Athletes over age 70 start late.

I write about adult late-bloomers (being one myself), but Olga has inspired me to rethink the whole idea. We reserve the word prodigy for the young. But it has much wider meaning.

My favorite definition, from the Oxford English Dictionary, is “an amazing or unusual thing, especially one out of the ordinary course of nature.” Anyone can be a prodigy at any age. And memoir writers, especially, deviate from the ordinary course of nature.

In his book What Makes Olga Run?, Bruce Grierson describes Olga’s ordinary but remarkable life. She was born on a farm in Saskatchewan, one of eleven children. She routinely milked cows at dawn, walked three miles to school, and scrubbed fifteen sets of clothes on a washboard. At age 22, she began teaching grades one through ten in a one-room schoolhouse.

 

What Makes Olga Run?

At a dance, she met John, a handsome insurance salesman. They soon married. He turned out to be an alcoholic philanderer. In the 1950s, a woman on the Canadian prairie (or anywhere) didn’t just up and leave her husband. Olga stayed for a decade, until, in a drunken rage, John put a knife to her throat.

She fled into the night with her 8-year-old daughter, pregnant with her second child. They jumped a train to Vancouver and ended up at her sister’s doorstep. “As far as I knew,” Olga recalls, “I was the first single mom in the history of the world.”

She lived with her sister for a few years, found a factory job, and studied at night for a teaching credential. She taught school for the next 34 years. When she retired, she played slow-pitch softball, but grew bored. Track and field offered a bigger running-and-throwing challenge.

So at age 77, Olga went looking for a coach.

Several universities have tried to discover Olga’s secret. She’s been stuck with needles, hooked up to electrodes, run over on virtual reality highways.

The studies confirm that something has slowed Olga’s aging process, yet they can’t quite finger what. If exercise is “driving the bus,” as Bruce Grierson puts it, attitude must be the onboard navigator.

Since the publication of What Makes Olga Run?, Olga has become a media darling and a bit of a trickster—that advanced and uncontrollable old woman Dorothy Sayers so admires. When asked, “What’s your secret?” she gives a different answer every time:

“I don’t allow people to have a negative effect on me.”

“I have a little bit of scotch now and then.”

“Enjoy life!”

After following Olga for four years, Bruce Grierson thinks he has figured it out:

 

 

Keep moving. Create routines (but sometimes break them). Believe in something. Lighten up. Begin now.

 

These strategies can also apply to writing, especially memoir writing:

1. Keep Moving. Any block, creative or otherwise, can be solved with movement. When we move, our bodies and brains become dance partners. Take a walk outside, let your hand flow across a piece of paper, do one then the other—just keep moving.

2. Create Routines (But Sometimes Break Them).  Our bodies crave routine. It frees our minds for storytelling and problem-solving. But if we occasionally break routine, we jolt our bodies and brains out of lazy shortcuts and force them to adapt. How can you apply this idea to your writing style and schedule?

3. Believe in Something. It doesn’t matter what. Olga is devoutly religious, but she also believes in the wonders of massage and reflexology. As psychologist James Fowler notes, belief is a trait marked by “the tendency to embrace puzzles, to see life’s dark spots as necessary tasks.”

4. Lighten Up. What did I mean by “memoir writers deviate from the ordinary course of nature”? If your life stays the course, you won’t write a memoir. As some point, you must navigate a deep, dark sea of stress, like Olga fleeing across a continent at night. Your memoir will arise from its depths. But stress hides in muscle and in memory. Self-care and exercise can help you “lighten up” and write through it.

5. Begin Now. Here’s Bruce Grierson’s observation about boomers: “We’re rested, we’re restless, we’re ready.” A perfect prescription for writing memoir.

At the risk of sounding cliché, it’s never too late to become a prodigy, an amazing unusual thing out of the ordinary course of nature, an advanced and uncontrollable old woman (or man). Why even try?

As Olga Kotelko says, “To inspire, that’s the name of the game.” And of course, she walks her talk.

At 95, she just finished her memoir.

***

Thank you for introducing us to Olga and her remarkable story, Debra. Olga, you are a role model and inspiration for all of us. You show us with style and grace how age is in our mind. It’s never too late to fulfill our dreams. Thank you!

Bio:

Debra Eve is a nonfiction writer who blogs about creativity and positive aging at Later Bloomer. You can find her most popular essays on Kindle. She also holds an MA in Anthropology from UCLA, where she was the last assistant to archaeologist Marija Gimbutas, a colleague of Joseph Campbell. She helped bring Dr. Gimbutas’s final book, The Living Goddesses, to print. She is also the assistant managing editor of the online literary journal, Compose.

Debra’s current work-in-progress explores the intersection of archaeology and storytelling. She lives in Los Angeles with her British husband and two 25 lb Maine Coon cats.

Links:

Blog: http://laterbloomer.com

Facebook: http://facebook.com/laterbloomers

Twitter: http://twitter.com/debraeve

Later Bloomers on Kindle: http://amzn.com/B0066IG7PC

What Makes Olga Run? By Bruce Grierson: http://amzn.com/B00EMTG0O0

***

Olga’s memoir, Olga: The O.K. Way to a Happy, Healthy Life was published on April 25, 2014 and is available on Amazon.

Unknown

 

How about you? Have you ever thought it’s too late to pursue your dreams? What do you think about Olga’s story?

 

We’d love to hear from you. Please leave your comments below~

 

 

 

25 thoughts on “What a Nonagenarian Javelin Thrower Can Teach Us about Writing Memoir by Debra Eve”

  1. I’ve always said I don’t want to be a “rocky-chair granny.” We should all follow Olga’s lead and keep our lives filled with new things. Thanks so much, Kathy and Debra for waking me up on a groggy Monday morning. I’m ready to roll.

    1. So glad you enjoyed the story, Joan. Some mornings I find it hard to roll out of bed and hoist a cup of tea. I couldn’t imagine hitting the track. But we all can start where we’re at!

  2. Amen to all of this! Mildred Armstrong Kalish published her memoir Little Heathens in her mid-eighties, and Mary Delany invented mixed media collage at age 72. I was so impressed by her story I wrote a blog post about it
    http://plainandfancygirl.com/2014/02/05/what-will-you-be-doing-at-72/

    Why does this resonate with me? I’m a late bloomer too, emphasis on the “bloomer” part. And I suspect I have several compadres in that regard. I’m happy to meet you, Debra. Great post, Kathy. Thanks to both of you!

    1. Marian, I just read your beautiful post about Mrs Delaney and your message resonated strongly with Debra’s mission to embrace “Late Bloomers”. Delightful. It gives us all hope and inspiration to keep following our dreams despite our chronological age. I love it! 🙂

    2. I wrote about Mary Delany too, Marian. I absolutely loved Molly Peacock’s biography of her and ordered it from Amazon.ca before it was released in the U.S.!

      And speaking of Mary and her beautiful flowers, “late” blooming is a gardening term that really has nothing to do with being late, at least from the flower’s point of view ;).

  3. A very inspirational post, Kathy. Thank you for sharing. It’s wonderful “meeting” people like Olga, who refuse to go down without a fight! Yes, one can accept the aging process, but since there are no instructions on HOW to age, we each must find the best way for ourselves. What a hopeful thing to read first thing in the morning!

    1. Yes, Debbie, let’s celebrate our “seasoned” creativity as we age and find “the best way for ourselves”! So glad the message brightened your Monday morning. Thanks so much for stopping by and adding to the cheers for Debra’s inspirational work.

    2. Thank you, Debbie. You are so right — there is no instruction manual for aging and everything we thought we knew doesn’t apply anymore. Here’s to discovering our own path!

  4. I want to be just like Olga. Talk about a “Gutsy” woman, I volunteered in Spain recently and met several single British women in their 70s who were backpacking alone around the world and sleeping in youth hostels. What an inspiration they are to all of us.

  5. Hi Kathy. Thanks for the nod; I knew you’d enjoy Debra and I’m so glad you’ve hooked up. I LOVED this piece in the list of strategies:

    If your life stays the course, you won’t write a memoir.

    I also loved the list itself. Keep moving (indeed!), LIghten Up (the short version of the old Serenity Prayer), Create Routines (and break them sometimes). A lovely post. And, with a new memoir to add to my growing list.

    Thanks so much, again.

    1. You are most welcome, Janet. I am so happy you introduced Debra and I to one another. I love her positive attitude about the aging process. The real secret seems to be to keep moving!

    2. Janet, thank you so much for passing my name on to Kathy. I’d been admiring her work from a distance, so it was such an honor to get an email from her. Your memoir on your time in Kazakhstan sound fascinating too!

    1. Welcome, Sandra! I appreciate you stopping by and commenting on Debra’s lovely story about Olga. Olga certainly inspires us all to keep moving. No excuses!

    2. Hello, Sandra! Thanks for stopping by. There’s only so much room in a post like this, and one part of Olga’s remarkable life I had to leave out — she’s an avid painter and her work hangs all over her house. She specializes in flowers from her garden! So there’s another piece of the puzzle you might enjoy.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *