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Dare We Write About Miracles in Memoir? A Guest Post by Pam Richards

A guest post by Pam Richards/@candletothesun

 

I am happy to feature Memoir Author Pam Richards in this guest post on writing about miracles. In her memoir, Singing from Silence, Pam pays tribute to her friend , Christian musician Rich Mullins and shares a miracle she experienced after his death. Here are my reviews on Amazon and Goodreads.

Have you ever experienced a miracle in your life and then wondered who you could share it with? Would others think you were crazy? But you know that it’s real. As a writer , how would you reveal it in your writing?

Rainbow after the storm/ dreamstimefree
Rainbow after the storm/ dreamstimefree

 

Pam will explore these questions and invite us all to explore our own lives for miracles we may be willing to share.

Memoir Author Pam Richards
Memoir Author Pam Richards

Welcome, Pam!

Which genre would best permit an author to unveil a miracle?

A scientific journal stands to lose professional respectability by flying in the face of the known laws of physics. In the same vein, fictional accounts–unless they fall into the categories of magical realism or fantasy–don’t tend to climb too far out on a limb. Preserving believability through careful attention to realistic detail is normally critical to the author’s intention to make his scenes pop.

Miracles may be well and good, but we fear they undermine the careful crafting an author of fiction relies upon to duplicate reality.

Science is still advancing the boundaries of our knowledge every day, but most of us are much more unfamiliar with the invisible precepts of wave versus particle than we are with more sensibly accessible categories of science like chemistry or gravity.

If not in a memoir, when can we cite a miracle?

Is it such a stretch to consider the Gospels of Matthew, Mark, and John memoirs? In writing about the miracles they saw, of course they risked being called crazy. They saw things we probably never will: events that defy logic. But more things exist than we can experience with our senses. In Rich Mullins’ final interview with podcaster Dick Staub in April of 1997, he noted the failure of logic to cover the vast spectrum of human experience:

“. . . I basically feel like the enlightenment has played itself out. And it’s done all the damage it can possibly do. I mean, I don’t know how much more damage the idea of that logic is supreme is going to do, but I think, you know, we got to the bottom of logic, and-and it doesn’t really cover the material.”

Is logic able to address all things seen and unseen? I think it’s much safer to say there exist many real things that we will never be able to prove through reason and our senses.

I constantly watch the skies as I drive. Often, I see a parhelion. Sometimes called sundogs, these iridescent segments of rainbow flank the sun in the high clouds at a certain latitude from the horizon.

The only time my children see them is when I’m in the car to point them out, and my passengers are always quick to instruct me to keep my eyes on the road. They’ll never be natural sky watchers like my father was. They claim I see sun dogs simply because no one but me looks into the sun.

My father flew weather reconnaissance heading into a typhoon during World War Two, and we always had in common our fascination with the skies. Toward the end of his life, he struggled with dementia. I urgently wanted to share the vision of a parhelion with him. I’d call him when I spotted one, wherever I was, and ask him to look out the window. The sun dog doesn’t last very long. Evanescent, ephemeral, the parhelion holds its short-lived candle to the sun. My father, who wasn’t so steady on his feet, couldn’t get to the right place at the right time to see one. He died before we shared that vision.

I was the one with the blessing–or from another point of view, the burden–of seeing sun dogs. Do I believe they are miraculous? Not really. I know the precise weather patterns that enable them to exist. I know exactly where to find them in the sky, and at what time of day. But I do think it’s fair to use them as a metaphor for miracle. Some people experience them, but most don’t. No matter how well you train yourself to see the parhelion, you may never see one.

Why do I feel compelled to let people know about sun dogs, even when I realize how seldom they are seen?

Because I know how beautiful they are.

They are a symbol of their Maker’s beauty, and along with the gift of enjoying beauty, I believe He gave me the obligation to share it.

Those of us who write memoirs to share the truth of our lives may consider our responsibility to reveal the miracles we have experienced.

If we are letting our readers slip their feet into our shoes and live a part of our life’s journey, how can we deprive them of our most transformative moments?

When we have had a parhelion moment in our lives, how do we address it in our memoirs? Do we hide it behind a cloud of careful compromise to obscure its exceptional—and perhaps questionable—nature, or do we reveal it in full glory?

Do we stifle it with silence, or do we let our writing sing?

Parhelion by Pam Ritchards

Author’s Bio:

Born in 1956, Pamela Richards is an artist by temperament, inclination and training, although she has spent most of her professional career as a sign language interpreter. She has also done sign language illustration, raised three children, and cared for her parents.

She enjoys photography, building websites and making video presentations. She feels led to promoted the work of artists who touch hearts. She gives out of her own creative gifts.

She has spent the past four years as a writer, compiling her memories of her experiences with Rich Mullins, who profoundly influenced her spirituality and concept of creativity.

Pam was compelled to write her memories of Richard after listening to his music again after nearly ten years of trying to push him out of her mind following his death. “I found that denial really does not help us deal with grief,” she states, “and that music offers an immediate portal to memory. But Richard always knew that.” She has learned that those who mourn will not be left uncomforted, and this is what she shares in her writing.

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Singing From Silence by Pam Richards

 

 

How about you? Have you ever experienced a miracle in your life and if so, how do you feel about sharing it? Let’s talk.

 

We’d love to hear from you. Please leave your comments below~

 

 

Next Week:  Journal to Memoir: Planting the Seeds for Story

 

 

Music Matters in Memoir Writing~A Reflection

Posted by Kathleen Pooler/@kathypooler

Music is moral law. It gives soul to the universe, wings to the mind, and life to everything…Without music, life would be an error. “Plato, attributed

 

"Listening to Music" Galina Barskaya/dreamstimefree
“Listening to Music” Galina Barskaya/dreamstimefree

 

I have always been amazed at the ability of music to affect my mood, transport me to another time and place and help me connect to my own creative energy.

When I write about the past, I often tune into Pandora radio for whatever decade I may be writing about.

Okay, I’ll admit, I do often sing around the house, too. I usually wake up with a song on my mind and end up giving voice to it until it eventually dissipates as I go about my day. Here’s the deal- I can’t really sing but that doesn’t matter. I  do enjoy belting out the tunes to my audience of Rosie and Max, our Golden Retrievers and to Wayne, my husband who usually just smiles and shakes his head.

Music helps me to connect…

 

Music is a universal language:

The Italian tenor, Andrea Bocelli can sing to me anytime and I’ll understand his language of love. Here he is performing The Prayer with Celine Dion at the 1999 Grammys:

 

 

 

 

 

Music is therapeutic:

Think about the soothing background music played in the dentist’s or doctor’s office to calm you, or the use of music in hospice settings to ease pain and anxiety. Music therapy, also called” expressive therapy” is a part of any helping professions’ role in healing according to Wikipedia.

Power of Music by Louis Gallait. A brother and sister resting before an old tomb. The brother is attempting to comfort his sibling by playing the violin, and she has fallen into a deep sleep, "oblivious of all grief, mental and physical."  Wikipedia/Music Therapy
Power of Music by Louis Gallait. A brother and sister resting before an old tomb. The brother is attempting to comfort his sibling by playing the violin, and she has fallen into a deep sleep, “oblivious of all grief, mental and physical.” Wikipedia/Music Therapy

 

 

 

Music is transformative:

It often transports the singer or musician to an altered state. Have you ever seen American cellist and virtuoso, Yo-Yo Ma in concert and seen the ecstasy on his face when he plays the cello?

 

 

 

 

Music reflects and defines the times:

Social movements are galvanized in the music of the times. Here’s Peter, Paul and Mary at a concert in Japan in 1990 singing Where Have All the Flowers Gone? It speaks to the pain and loss of the young men of my generation, the 1960’s, in the Vietnam War, and fueled the anti-war movement:

 

 

 

 

It is clear to me that music has extraordinary benefits to enhance productivity in life and in writing.

 

When I was thirteen, my parents encouraged me to take piano lessons. Begrudgingly, I’d sit at the upright used piano, pounding the keys, wishing I was doing anything other than that. Eventually, they let me quit, realizing I had no interest. As time went by, I began regretting that decision. For years, I longed to be able to play and dreamed of getting back to it someday.

 

After a trip to Missouri in 2006, when my friend, Mary Sue, sat at her Baby Grand piano in her Victorian sitting room with an upright piano and an organ, and mesmerized me with her piano music, I made a decision.

 

I would play the piano again.

 

As soon as I returned home, I went shopping for a used piano and bought an upright Kimball the same day. Soon after, I signed up for piano lessons which I took regularly from a lovely teacher, Sarah,for six years.

 

Now, let me be clear. I do not aspire to be a concert pianist nor do I expect to be able to play by ear as Mary Sue does. But I can read music and I can play for myself so that I recognize the tune. If I’m on a roll, others who happen to be in the vicinity recognize it too.

 

I play the piano for the sheer enjoyment of letting my fingers dance across the keys in a way that transports me and gets me in rhythm with myself and my creative energies.

 

When my friend, Marilyn, was dying of ovarian cancer in Wisconsin in 2009, I’d sit at the piano and play, visualizing myself connecting with her spirit. I couldn’t be there with her in person but I could play music in her honor. It was my gift for her and to myself.

 

On my parent’s 65th wedding anniversary in 2008 when I couldn’t be with them, I played Let Me Call You Sweetheart over the phone.
I stopped playing about a year ago listing a litany of excuses…focus on writing, play with the grand kids, do the laundry. I figured I’d lost my music…

 

So I sat down the other day and began playing some familiar tunes-Beauty and the Beast, Ava Marie, When Irish Eyes Are Smiling and guess what?

 

I got my music back.

My piano
My piano

 

I need to practice but as I finish the first revision of my memoir, it’s the least I can do to connect with my own rhythms so that what flows onto the keyboard will spill over onto the pages helping me to  connect, heal, transform and define the times and my story through my writing.

 

 

For me, music does matter in memoir writing.

 

 

 

How about you? Do you have ways to tap into your own creative energies? How do you get in rhythm?

 

 

I’d love to hear from you. Please leave your comments below~

 

 

 

This week:  I’m also over at Cate Russell-Cole’s blog, CommuniCATE with a guest post; “Confessions of a Memoir Writer”

 

 

Next Week: Memoir Author Pam Richards will discuss “Dare We Write About Miracles in Memoir?” Pam will be giving away a copy of her memoir, Singing From Silence to a commenter who will be selected in a random drawing.